The Heresy Of Calling Others’ Thinking Heresy

WLC-ThePerfectChurch_ThePerfectChurch-SS-CurrentI just read an article written a  year or two ago by a Christian leader called The Heresy of Worshiptainment. As you might guess the article suggests that because a church’s worship might be exciting, include a large number of people and be even the slightest bit attractive to others, it can’t really focus on God – it’s just entertainment. [NOTE: the word entertainment actually means to keep the attention of, something many churches have great trouble doing.]

This writer suggested that people would be best to do what his church decided to do and get rid of all the extras and just teach the Word. Thousands have come they said so I guess that’s what we should all do and consider, right? Of course there were no references to the church being the Body of Christ, encouraging one another, discipling others, missions, helping the poor or caring. Sounded like just meeting together and studying the Bible (was there application too?) would be enough. And frankly, I’ve not heard to too many other churches having the same success with that approach.

But this article follows the common practice these days to pan anything that’s not acceptable to the author or group making the statements or writing the book. So they look down on big churches, contemporary ones, those that aren’t radical or big or small or something enough. If you don’t have enough small groups or a mid-week prayer service or become integrated or teach using this method or that, you aren’t acceptable.

You see I’m not writing today about worship styles, preaching methods or church structure though I have my opinions about those. No, I’m writing to ask supposedly well-known leaders to quit trying to set the specific standards for today’s church and how God must and does work. God is a creative, powerful, multi-faceted God who made people and cultures and societies very different. No one size, style or approach fits all so quit writing books and teaching at conferences suggesting there is!

We have no right to demand methodologically that our way is the best or only way. If there are important principles then yes, by all means share them, model them, live them. Of course there are foundational concepts that God has made clear for his church. So let’s focus on those but concurrently celebrate our differences and the fact that God reaches people in thousands of ways and settings. And yes some are being reached in those services that appear to others to be mere entertainment, where a different translation is used or where the preaching style isn’t what we claim to be the biblical style.

And if those leading those services are caught up in merely doing a show not leading worship or preaching truth then shame on them and they’ll need to deal with God on that. But it’s not the style of service, preaching or coffee service that was necessarily the problem.

Churches are not going to change because we change the style or format though those choices may have their place and purpose. Churches change when people change, when they develop a common vision about the importance of Matthew 28, making disciples, the process of helping a person meet Christ to growing into a fully devoted and commitment follower of Christ. And frankly, I hope they don’t all end up looking alike, especially like me!


The Power of ONE Thing You Do Today


There was a song sung decades ago by Three Dog Night called One Is The Loneliest Number. Of course we talk these days about the importance of having people in our lives, those who care about us and not feeling alone.

However, there are also regular challenges and exhortations from preachers, experts and motivators to combine our efforts with others, do something BIG and create a movement that will change the world somehow.  And all of that has its place and purpose.

But sometimes I think we need a few more reminders about what just ONE person like us can do to initiate change, genuine transformation and long-term impact. One isn’t necessarily lonely.

Perhaps it borders on trite or cheesy but the picture of a rock thrown into the water and the corresponding ripples created by that single rock still makes the point.

One action, comment or decision can have results that are both big and lasting for years even generations to come. They ripple beyond that one choice.

I like the picture of a giant domino display,  you know the ones very disciplined people set up over dozens of square feet of space using all sorts of twists, turns, rises and falls for the final result.

Once their preparation is completed, however, what starts the process? The designer knocks over one domino and the rest just happens. Hundreds, if not thousands, of dominoes begin to fall at a rapid pace, initiating a fascinating, often beautiful display of motion, color and flare.

You see, our one action today, tomorrow or the next day – a word of encouragement, an act of kindness, a listening ear or hundreds of other possibilities – could be that first domino in the life of someone.  It could be the one domino that leads to another falling, another after that and then hundreds or more after that in a family, office, community or neighborhood.

But if we don’t knock it over, think of what might be missed or never happen? You see, we can all be that first domino no matter our past, present, limitations or struggles. We just need to have our eyes and ears open. If you’re a person of faith, you might listen for that whisper or quiet voice saying Do it now. Whatever, don’t miss out. Don’t stay paralyzed. Knock one over – today.

Last Laugh: Eating Healthy Could Kill You


We had a major crisis at our house the other day. We were out of regular hamburger buns. Thankfully we have a strong marriage.

However, I needed one for the lunch I was going to take to work and so my resourceful wife looked through the freezer and found several gluten-free buns apparently left from our if-we’re-the-only-living-survivors cache of bread and other frozen things.

The bun didn’t look too bad (okay it could have been a pretend rock at the history museum), so I slipped it into a Ziploc bag and went off to work. Later at our staff meeting I placed my perfectly grilled burger from the night before on said bun, added some mustard that had likely been in the church fridge before the Internet and dug in.

I now know why it makes sense that if you rearrange the letters in GLUTEN-FREE you get TEEN LEG FUR or URGENT FLEE. I’ve never eaten a paper bag but . . . . Who new that gluten which also can spell LEG NUT mattered so much?

I truly do feel bad for those who have to limit their diet to gluten – free items. They generally have serious health cautions and need that regimen.

But I wonder about the people who for  supposed health reasons CHOOSE other similar options. You know – green smoothie cleanses, HMR (Help Me Rhonda) diet, the military diet (eat what you want, then run twenty miles with a full pack and throw up) and the Werewolf Diet (I’m not kidding) where you fast during every full moon and watch horror movies (okay I am kidding).

There is one program called the Cookie Diet now also a new sponsor on Sesame Street. Now that’s one I could get into although I don’t think they include gooey chocolate chips or Snickerdoodles. But supposedly a regular dose of somewhat tasty cookies can lose you pounds and give you new energy and health in no time.

Hmm . . . where are the Oreos?

Hospitals, Hope and Heaven

HospitalA close relative had an unexpected accident and was taken  to the hospital the other day. She is elderly but her latest trip to Untold Stories of the E.R. was certainly not planned. Thankfully she survived but as is often the case, her life (and ours to some degree) will again change significantly.

Several days of waiting and watching left me again wondering about a number of things that maybe you have pondered of late as well. Some I can answer, others I cannot. So for a few minutes I want to just throw out a few questions, thoughts or perspectives that were at least made prominent the past 72 hours.

For example, life does not seem very fair or gracious when people are near the end of life. Our relative thankfully did not die during this recent episode but it was clear that there were for her times of fear, feeling out of control and panic. It appears that while God may be there to meet us in Heaven we will likely feel very alone walking through that next door to meet him. No one from this life goes with us.

Second, we probably should say what we want to say if we haven’t said it already. Life can end quickly. We and those we love won’t necessarily have one more day, meal or even breath. So we would be wise to speak love, care and thankfulness to those who mean the most to us. And we should do it NOW.

Hospitals remind us that the ability to communicate what we think and feel can often be stolen from us for a time or for forever. Most people feel regret when they never got the chance to speak life into another person. Don’t be one of them if you can help it.

Third, this life can be great but will never be enough. When loved ones experience the actual loss of a mother, father, dad, son, grandma, grandpa they naturally long for just one more day, one more moment, one more opportunity to say what they wanted to say to them. It doesn’t matter how long we had, we want more.

So, doesn’t that suggest that we need to have as many those moments now as possible? I think so. If we’ll never have enough, then we ought to fill our personal tank as full as possible before those special people are gone.

Yes, hospitals may be the end of the line for some relationships, only a stopover for others.  Either way, let your next visit remind you, too, that now might be the best time for saying and doing those loving things you always thought you’d get to someday.

Don’t leave them in the future.

The Good Life Is Highly Overrated


Have you ever been taking a few days of unexpected leisure, enjoying an extended vacation or living in an especially beautiful locale? If so, did anyone come up to you and say something like, “So, you’re enjoying the good life, huh?” And perhaps you responded with, “Well, yes I guess so.”

But did you ever stop and think about what made those few days, that extra week or that prime living spot the good life. Was it really good at that point but everything leading up to that moment was not so great? I doubt it. Sure, you were in a wonderful, restful or inspiring place or time of life, but I doubt if you were finally encontering a good life after years, even decades of an all bad life.

You see, I wonder if we’ve become confused about what makes life particularly good at a given juncture. Is it possible that we’re mixing up good with enjoyable, plush, a lack of formal work or activity, a limited schedule or even extra or ample resources?

For those of you from a faith background, you know what I mean when I say that I regularly hear well-meaning Christians talk about something wonderful, even miraculous happening to them and they then say, God is good. And my response, at least inwardly is, “Well, of course He is good, but He was good before your pleasant fortunes occurred. He’s good even when life seems terrible and life isn’t working as we’d hoped it would.”

So what might better represent a good life? I’m confident that there is no one set of circumstances or outcomes but I do think there are a few principles or realities worth mentioning that make life good.

Life is good when we are truly thankful for what we have. Thankfulness means that we’re not constantly wishing for more, that we can still have gratitude for the blessings all around us – family, friends, faith, a home, a job, etc. – even when other areas are a bit out of control, even desperate.

Life is good when we still see God in the world around us. We still see His majesty in creation, in life, in the fact that we can take another breath and live for another day.

Life is also good when we are growing, changing, being stretched and trying new things to become a better person. Want to really life the bad life? Quit getting better.

And life is good when we sense that we’re living out our purpose, using our gifts and sharing our resources as meager as they may seem. People who have discovered their purpose or purposes, the thing that makes them feel whole again, truly live the good life.

So if you’ve been waiting and wish for the good life, look again. It might just be the life you’ve either been living for a long time or  the one right next to you waiting for you to begin.

No Waiting: Not Necessarily

waitI made one of my several-times-a-week visits to a Starbucks near where I am both a chaplain and pastor. (I believe most seminaries teach a class on studying in coffee shops. Mine did.)

Anyhow, I noticed something that I think I’ve been missing in most of the places we go that have drive-thru windows. If you’re in the outside line, you get better service. I’ll see eight or ten cars go through and receive their orders while I wait on mine.

On the one hand I get it. They have to keep the line moving. But it’s a bit discouraging to realize that those of us inside who have made the effort to get out of our cars and slow down a little, get treated with less importance then those who are hurrying to the next place or commitment.

And I suppose I should be thankful that it works this way because these facilities are actually helping me slow down! But there’s a bigger point here.

Our culture doesn’t like to wait and many of us have bought into that way of life as the best way. We have Amazon Prime now where our packages come the same day or next at worst. They’re even talking about sending them by drone at some point. Geesh, I hope mine doesn’t get confused with a military drone that ends up sending a heat-seeking missile at my front porch! Either way no waiting.

We can order our food and drinks ahead of time and just pick them up when WE want them. No waiting. We can pay a little extra or become really important so that we don’t have any delay boarding our airplanes. No waiting.

Is there much of anything that you can’t get online without much of a wait? I don’t think so except maybe another child. I’ll wait.

Is there anything wrong with increasing some of our conveniences and helping us avoid so many lines and delays?  Of course not. But I think there are some reasons why we shouldn’t always avoid the waiting.

One, waiting can help us learn that everything good in life isn’t necessarily instant.  I wonder if young people today are actually learning that if they can’t get something right now – a skill, talent, benefit, gift or whatever – that it isn’t worth having. And yet some of the best, most lasting, inspiring, life-changing moments and experiences can never be instant.

Great paintings, Olympic medals, intimate relationships and miracle producing skills were not obtained in a No Waiting line.  They are usually the result of years of work, sweat, practice, training and perseverance.

Two, waiting teaches us to slow down and see some things we might miss by just rushing through. It’s like flying versus driving. There are great benefits to flying but driving lets us see little towns, meet new people and view things from up close at 40 or 60 miles per hour, not four hundred. I think of the people I’ve met along the way in a car or train, the fun signs or little towns we’ve stopped to see or the wildlife that just happened along the way that we would have missed traveling faster.

And even when my slowdown was caused by less desirable circumstances, the waiting has often had special benefits. I remember having to spend the night in Frankfurt, Germany because of missing my flight back to Chicago. However, that evening before I slept I had dinner with a wonderful Austrian man in a small, airport restaurant. That may never happen again and I’m glad I didn’t miss it.

So, okay there are times when the fast lane is best. But remember that waiting may be part of God’s way to slow us down so that we don’t look back on our lives someday and wish we’d seen and experienced all those things that others enjoyed by skipping the drive thru. I think I’ll have another latte – inside.

No Politics From Me: Just Principles That Might Help Us


I’m on Facebook quite a bit along with nominal looks at Twitter and of course other places where people get adamant about their political and social views. I appreciate the passion they have about their perspective because I’m pretty passionate about my views, at least the ones that I think have a moral basis and are not just my preferences.

However, I don’t spend much time debating those views on public sites and you might think about taking the same position. Why?

First, very few people will change their mind because of your rant, meme, believed absolute, attack or guilt trip. Most of us are pretty convinced we’re right and don’t change sides easily. That doesn’t mean we can’t change our views but it will take some time, thought, deeper conversations and nuanced insights to do so.

Second, people are rarely drawn to us to know more about anything if we come across as arrogant, know-it-alls. Frankly, I want to keep the door open to connecting with people, even those who disagree, so I’ll share more about my views  with people but it has to happen in another, better setting.

You see, there are several kinds of posts that we need to quit posting. To keep doing so will lose us friends, make us look trite and convince more people that we really aren’t that insightful. Not much of a legacy or reputation.

One, let’s stop exaggerating and suggesting that anyone’s actions are going to do something to all, everyone, forever or the culture. They aren’t. Hyperbole is cheap, lazy criticism and if we’re going to make a statement then at least back it up.

Two, on a related note, let’s quit using tired, unfair labels for anyone who disagrees. People aren’t necessarily bigots, haters, racists, un-Christian or losers just because they don’t see eye to eye with us. Name-calling is merely unkind and won’t help any further discussions to happen, ones that could actually help the discourse.

Three, let’s stop suggesting that our way or ideas should have no limits. Statements like I’m for freedom or no wall or refugees or faith or forgiveness or . . . .may be irresponsible, impossible and dangerous if there are no parameters.

The bottom line is that we need to learn to tolerate and at least listen to those who don’t see it our way. There’s  too much yelling and screaming, even on Facebook, these days. How about a little more listening and learning first?

What I’d Rather Be Way More Than Famous

being-famousThere are lots of well-known Christians in today’s media, internet and popularity – driven culture who are now household names. I’m not one of them and quite thankful about that.

Now to be fair, many of them didn’t ask for their fame, status or iconic status and like me, might prefer they didn’t have it. Some of it came with the territory (or perhaps after reading The Prayer of Jabez.)

Nonetheless, it’s seems important to first realize the inherent perils of even religious notoriety and if possible give serious consideration to avoiding more popularity. Why? What’s the problem with being a big name?

First, you start becoming an expert on certain topics or even THE voice for much of Christianity. People start saying ____________  (you) said instead of Jesus said. Some start believing your way, your church, your ministry, your latest I just discovered concept, your video is the answer that Christians have been missing all these years. Do you attend conferences? Do you keep seeing many of the same experts speaking at them? I do.

Second, your followers keep asking for more. They want the next book, blog post, conference message, brilliant outline, word or concept that will keep them excited about their faith until you or someone comes up with the next one. They want to hear your stats – how many books you sold, people came to Christ, churches were started or concerts you had this year. It’s a black hole that your groupies started and which may never end.

Third, you can’t mess up. Now I’m not condoning that we in ministry should be able to stray and have it overlooked or come without consequence. But when you’re famous, every action is evaluated, compared and examined by those who think you should be comparable to Billy Graham and Mother Teresa. And even the smallest chink in your armor may show up in People or Christianity Today.

You know what I’d rather be and do with my life? I want to merely be someone who influences others to be more like Christ. But there are no numbers associated with my wish. Could I become famous? I suppose so though my wife prays against that most of the time.

But if I’m content with influencing and impacting smaller numbers, one at a time or maybe a few hundred through my speaking, blogs or small books on family, then I won’t be so driven to try to find out how there can be more.

Granted, some will say that if I have more potential I should seek it. But perhaps we’ve forgotten that potential is often beyond our understanding or view. Could it be that touching and influencing just one person could have the same potential as someone who speaks to or writes for thousands has? I think so.

So rather than seeking fame go after influence and impact. Being famous could still be the result and if so handle it well. Stay humble. If you don’t, then instead of gaining notoriety you may just end up notorious.


A New Year Change Means A New You In Some Way

newyearsWe’ve all tried the resolution route, right? We start off the new year (or new season of life) with great expectations that THIS time we will really stick with that exercise program, Bible reading plan, savings commitment or reduced sugar lifestyle. We promise not to get so angry but rather to unload one or more of those other bad habits or even destructive attitudes.

But before long, we haven’t just stopped our discipline. We didn’t even notice that we quit!

Why is that? Well, I would like to suggest that at least one significant reason for our lack of follow through is that we didn’t deal with the issue or issues inside that were fueling our dysfunction, unhelpful habit or lack of discipline. You see, often, in fact most of the time, the reason we’re overeating, spending too much, being lazy or angry much of the time lies somewhere deep within us.

There is pain, disappointment, even despair that hasn’t been addressed so many of our actions are actually painkillers. And frankly we don’t want to face the pain so we hold on to the drugs so to speak rather than release them. And if we do get rid of one drug, but don’t take care of the inward cause, the tumor, we’ll either go back to it or find a more socially acceptable drug to get people off our back.

So, what’s a better way? Deal with the source of your pain, discouragement, anger, despair or major disappointment. Perhaps you’re still grieving a loss, feeling like a failure, angry about a recent series of events or with an adult child. There are hundreds of possibilities that you and a pastor, therapist, counselor or insightful friend or spouse need to talk through. Let God also show you where the real problem resides.

Because once you start to let go of what caused that pain and the scar or tumor truly begins to heal, you won’t find yourself needing the medication so much. You’ll actually overcome some of your fears, try new things and accomplish a resolution (change) or two. It’s not an easy road, but try starting somewhere this year. Take a step or two but first look inside. It may be more readily fixed than you think. God certainly knows it can be handled. Give Him a chance.

If Your Heart Is Hurting This Christmas


Janice sat by herself in the mall waiting for Carol to buy another present at a nearby store. Janice had agreed to accompany her friend to the mall for some Christmas shopping but was now regretting that she had come. Janice hadn’t bought one gift and probably would not today or the next day.

While Carol had kindly asked her to go into just one more store and give her an opinion about her gift choice, she simply couldn’t. All she could think about was that her mom, who passed away six weeks ago, wasn’t here this Christmas. It was always Mom and me who went shopping together. But not this year or ever again.

So Janice sat in the mall corridor watching seemingly happy people talking, drinking coffee, laughing and obviously anticipating another wonderful Christmas. How could the world just keep going and celebrating when her world felt so dark, empty and cold?

Janice isn’t a real person but there are lots like her out there this Christmas and one of them may be you or someone you know. And while everyone grieves differently to some degree and for varying lengths of time, there are a few important concepts to remember and embrace when going through grief at a holiday.

First of all, you don’t have to live up to everyone’s expectation. People will want you to go places, be there at certain times, stay for a while and enjoy yourself. You don’t have to. If  someone asks you to come over, say that you’ll see how you’re doing that day and may only come for dessert if at all. You decide. Whether they are happy or pleased about it doesn’t matter.

Second, you don’t have to do all the things you normally do for a holiday. If you feel like decorating, do it. If not, skip it or find somewhere in between. There’s no one right way to do Christmas after a loss. Do it your way. It’s okay.

Third, enjoy at least a few memories of your lost loved one. It may be in conversation with one or a few, depending upon what you can handle. It might be alone with a journal, looking at pictures or reading old letters. Whatever works to remind you of the good things that person placed in your life is the way to do it. If tears come, embrace them. If you smile, then feel free to laugh, too.

There will be more Christmases and other holidays. They will get better. But it might just take a while, longer than you think. But that’s okay because that’s the way you are. And that’s all that really matters.