A close relative had an unexpected accident and was taken to the hospital the other day. She is elderly but her latest trip to Untold Stories of the E.R. was certainly not planned. Thankfully she survived but as is often the case, her life (and ours to some degree) will again change significantly.
Several days of waiting and watching left me again wondering about a number of things that maybe you have pondered of late as well. Some I can answer, others I cannot. So for a few minutes I want to just throw out a few questions, thoughts or perspectives that were at least made prominent the past 72 hours.
For example, life does not seem very fair or gracious when people are near the end of life. Our relative thankfully did not die during this recent episode but it was clear that there were for her times of fear, feeling out of control and panic. It appears that while God may be there to meet us in Heaven we will likely feel very alone walking through that next door to meet him. No one from this life goes with us.
Second, we probably should say what we want to say if we haven’t said it already. Life can end quickly. We and those we love won’t necessarily have one more day, meal or even breath. So we would be wise to speak love, care and thankfulness to those who mean the most to us. And we should do it NOW.
Hospitals remind us that the ability to communicate what we think and feel can often be stolen from us for a time or for forever. Most people feel regret when they never got the chance to speak life into another person. Don’t be one of them if you can help it.
Third, this life can be great but will never be enough. When loved ones experience the actual loss of a mother, father, dad, son, grandma, grandpa they naturally long for just one more day, one more moment, one more opportunity to say what they wanted to say to them. It doesn’t matter how long we had, we want more.
So, doesn’t that suggest that we need to have as many those moments now as possible? I think so. If we’ll never have enough, then we ought to fill our personal tank as full as possible before those special people are gone.
Yes, hospitals may be the end of the line for some relationships, only a stopover for others. Either way, let your next visit remind you, too, that now might be the best time for saying and doing those loving things you always thought you’d get to someday.
Don’t leave them in the future.